Wedding Flowers and Flip Flops

Just wanted to post some pictures of the beautiful flowers from the wedding.  They were absolutely gorgeous.  J Ross at Hot House Design studio did a great job.  I couldn't have been happier with them.  Most of these pictures I took this morning, but I will post the professional pictures when I get them.

I love the shades of pink and white flowers.  Our wedding colors were pink and gold. 

Two days later and the flowers still look great.  These were just some of the ones on the tables and my bouquet that we managed to grab on the way out of the country club as they were disassembling the arrangements.

A big hit with the women were these cute flip flops from Heels Off.  I found them online just last Saturday and emailed them to see if the flip flops could be delivered to me in time for the wedding.  Nina at Heels Off responded promptly even though it was Saturday and I had them shipped from the UK on Monday and I received them at my door in Birmingham, Alabama on Wednesday.  How fast is that??

LOVE THEM!!

They come 20 to a box in assorted small, medium and large sizes.

The flip flops come in a cute box too.  I had them sitting next to the DJ and the dance floor.  A couple of ladies kicked their heels off and put these on as soon as the reception started.

One of my friends that came to the wedding has a daughter getting married this month and is going to order some of these for her daughter's wedding.  It's a fun and practical wedding favor.

We got some really great wedding gifts including this one from The Murph's brother's family.

My brother's family gave us this frame with my favorite quote written on it.

One of our sweet guests had our wedding invitation framed for us in a gorgeous frame.  I love it!

This sign was at the entry way as our guests arrived for the wedding.

I love the bling on the bride's bouquet wrap!

The Murph's niece read parts of this book "I like You" during the ceremony.  On top are the groomsmen boutonnieres and some wedding mints we had out for guests near the entry.

One of our Waterford toasting flutes.

With a house full of family all weekend, I didn't see much of this little guy until everyone went to bed.  Then he would appear, hungry and demanding, just in time for bed.

I will have many more pictures of the actual wedding, my dresses, my beautiful bridesmaids and their dresses and the guys and their tuxes.  The Murph, his brother and The Boy looked so handsome in their tuxes!  Can't wait to show you!

Wedding Day!!!

Can't believe the day is finally here!  I am in between hair and makeup appointments so I don't have much time to do a blog post.

Gotta run!

I will post pictures when I can.  It is crazy around here right now!

Less Than 2 Days To Go!

We have less than 2 days to go before the wedding.  Actually by the time I publish this post it will be 1 more day to go before the wedding because it's almost midnight here.  I'm exhausted!

Today we have been getting the house ready for guests.  The Boy was suppose to be home by 6 pm and get his hair cut.  He and his friend had car problems in the middle of nowhere and it put them behind almost 5 hours getting home.  A belt broke in the car and they had to find a repair shop.  They were still almost 4 hours away so there wasn't an easy way for me to get to them.  Luckily, they were able to find help and get the car repaired and be on their way home.

The Boy got home at 11 pm.

While all that was going on, The Murph and I went to pick up family members from the airport.  The plane was almost an hour late, which we didn't find out until we got there.  They finally arrived and we made it home before The Boy got home.

Tomorrow is another busy day.

I had to reschedule The Boy's haircut for tomorrow morning.  I have to get a manicure too.  And the tuxes have to be picked up.  The rest of the family is arriving from New Jersey.  The rehearsal is at 4:30.  Then the family is coming to the house for dinner.  We decided not to have a rehearsal dinner.  Just regular dinner at the house, very casual so my family and the Murph's can get to know each other and my mom can get her dress.

Another exciting thing that happened today is that our wedding might be featured in Alabama Wedding magazine.   The director at the country club where we are having the wedding, called us today to ask us if that would be okay.

Of course we said, "Yes!"

Now that family has arrived for the wedding, it's made me realize this is it!  No more waiting or planning.  It's time!

I Do, I Do, I Do, I Do, I Do

I love ABBA!  Dancing Queen has always been one of my favorite songs from them.  I came across this song in my search of wedding ceremony music.  I love it!

Today when I signed into the knot website, it showed "only 3 more days" until the wedding.  I don't know why, but I panicked!  Then I realized that on our TO DO checklist on that same site, we have checked off 171 items and only have a mere 8 to go.

What a relief!

I got so much done today.  This morning we had our final dance lesson for our first dance, then I headed over to get my hair colored and had a trial wedding hair run.  Then I headed over to alterations to have final fittings on my dress.  They are perfect and wedding ready.  I picked up my mom's dress too.

Then I went ahead and got a pedicure, but am waiting until tomorrow or Friday for the manicure.

While I did that, after the dance lesson, the Murph went to get measured for his tux and then took the swizzle sticks and the final payment with the final head count to the country club where we are having the wedding.

And best of all, The Boy called today to ask me how I wanted him to get his hair cut.  Since he really wanted to have his hair cut by his usual girl here in Birmingham, I called and made him an appointment for when he gets home tomorrow.

What luck!  She is available tomorrow evening to cut The Boy's hair.  And he's willing to do it, no fights, no problems, just like that!  I never thought I would ever get to this point with him.

Thank you Lord!

Five More Days Until The Wedding!

Five more days!  I can't believe it is almost here.  It seems like this wedding thing has been a part of our lives for over a year and 1/2 now.  We set a firm date in July and really had less than three months to line up vendors and plan everything, but it all seems to be falling into place.

This is going to be a busy week with hair, makeup, nails, final fittings in my dress, etc.  The Murph still has to be measured for his tux, but the groomsmen have been measured.   The bridesmaid dresses are all set.  We are still waiting on the wedding programs.  I'm getting a little worried about that because we were suppose to get it Friday and we went by the place today and he said we would get the proof sometime today.

We still haven't gotten it!

I get a little high from the fumes every time I walk in that printing shop.  I can only imagine how many brain cells have been destroyed in the guys that have worked there the past 20 years.  I LOVE the ink smell though!

I still don't know how I am going to fit in a hair cut appointment for The Boy.  He hasn't had one since last Spring.   Yes, it's going to be bad!  The wedding photographer told me to just get a ribbon in one of our wedding colors, pink or gold, and pull his hair back with it.  I think she was joking, but I may have to do that because I only have a day a 1/2 between when he gets home and the wedding to do it.  He's already told me he's not, but I can be very convincing.  He can also be very stubborn.

A gold ribbon would match his tie and vest...

I Hate Telling People This...

Back about four years ago, when The Boy was a sophomore in high school, I decided we were getting the heck out of here and moving to Florida to be near the beach.  It was surprisingly easy to get The Boy to buy into the idea, even though he despises the beach.  It's too sandy and sunny and windy for him.  I think we were just both ready for a new start back then beach or not.

Because of the custody arrangement and the fact The Boy's dad lives here in Birmingham, I expected a battle of some sort.  In keeping with the demands of the divorce decree, I wrote The Boy's dad a long letter telling him we were moving and I would provide him with our new address as soon as we had one.  I sat back and waited, expecting a dispute.

I was shocked when there wasn't much of battle from his dad.  I don't even remember what the response was, but I do remember it wasn't much.  The Boy and I were good to go.

I informed my mom and she, of course, said no.  She said I didn't need to move.  Every once in a while I would get some sort of email card from her telling me to "listen to my mother!"  She sent a singing monkey card once that said I needed to listen to her and I was NOT moving to Florida.

During that time, I got a Florida real estate license so I was licensed in Florida and Alabama, I put my house on the market and I started looking for jobs in Pensacola since I didn't think I could make it on real estate alone down there.

Months went by.  My house sat on the market.  I couldn't find a job.  My mom sent me death threats (just joking! Only singing monkeys).

I got an offer on my house, finally, but it fell through.  Then, The Boy found out about a technology school that he could go to his Junior and Senior year to learn about computers/information technology. In the mornings he would be at his normal high school, but after lunch he would take the bus 30 minutes down the road to the tech school.  He really wanted to do it, so I took the house off the market and we stayed.

Unfortunately, for some time after that (and even now) people think I've moved.  For a while I would show up for local races and they would say things like, "Hey, I thought you moved to Florida." or "Didn't you move to Florida?"

For years I have had to explain that, "No, I'm still here.  Haven't moved. "  Sometimes I would give explanations, sometimes not.  It really got to be a pain.

Now The Murph and I have been planning on moving after Christmas and Florida and Georgia are on our short list, but we are open.  Wherever there are job opportunities,  since we both need real jobs at some point.  Which brings me to why I am writing this post.

Today I was in my car dodging traffic trying to keep up with The Running Nazi, when my cell phone rang.  It was B from my stock broker's office calling to tell me they can't direct deposit into my checking account.  I hadn't talked to her in a while so we started catching up.  I helped her purchase her house a few years back and my son and her daughter went to the same high school.

She needed my address and asked me if that was where The Murph and I were going to live after we were married.  I knew it was probably a bad idea to say anything, but at that point I told her we were moving.  I knew as the words came out of my mouth, where B was going to go with it.  Sure enough she said what 20 million people (I'm exaggerating) have said to me during the past four years, "Weren't you moving to Florida a few years ago???" And there's always this tone they have in their voice when the say it.  Or is that just my imagination?

I know!  I hate to even tell people we are moving.  The Murph and I have "been moving" now for at least 4 or 5 years.  We were moving before we even knew each other.  And we were both moving to Florida.  That's part of what makes us a good match, isn't it?  Wanting to move to Florida and all...

What makes it even worse is that we really do kind of live in both places now since there's the condo down there.  It just adds to the confusion.

We really have to move now or I'm going to have to stop telling people that we are moving.  Believe me, no body's more confused about what I'm doing and where I am than I am!  What if The Murph gets a job here and we stay?  Then for the next 5 years I will have to explain to people that we're still here.  Didn't move.  Why?  Why not?  Because...

I'm still here... damn it!

Pumpkin Spice Lattes - The Jolt I Need When Finalizing Wedding Details

It's Fall which means Starbuck's has rolled out the pumpkin spice lattes!  I had my very first one of the season today in between meetings with our wedding vendors to finalize the details for our up coming wedding.  Only 9 more days!  I can't believe it's almost here!

I ordered these swizzle sticks to put in the signature cocktails.  French martini pink with a pink sugar rim around the top of the glass and gold swizzle sticks, since our colors are pink and gold.  I have the pink sugar, but am waiting on the swizzle sticks to be delivered.

We met with the photographer, florist, dj and the director at the country club where we are having the wedding.  It's very exciting!  The programs are being printed at the printer.  I want to have roses and ranunculus in the bouquets.  The florist told us that the week before last, they had ranunculus, but last weekend, no ranunculus.   I am keeping my fingers crossed that we will have some for the wedding.   I just love them!

And since I know how interested the blogging world is in my cats (yes, I know, not really), but here are some recent photos of Phantom doing his dead bug poses.

 Phantom trying to play footsies with me...

And one more The Murph took of Phantom and Cadence because he thought they looked so cute together peering out the window...

Just precious!

Which just proves that no matter what he says, The Murph does have a soft spot in his heart for very bad cats.

Car Keys and The Little Ninja Dog

I drove over to my mom's house, which is about a 30 minute drive, to pick her up and take her with me to the alterations lady.  I needed to try on my wedding dresses and my mom needed to take her dress to get altered.

When I got to her house she wasn't ready because I had gotten my times mixed up and was there thirty minutes early.  As she went to get ready, I sat down at her computer desk, which is right next to the back door.  The only things I had brought inside with me were my car keys and my cell phone.

As I waited, fighting off her very hyper little dog, Molly, who is small, but can jump higher than my cats, my mom brought a bag of hair clips downstairs to see if I wanted any of them.  They looked like the exact same ones she tried to pawn off on me back in the 1980's, so I did the same thing I did back them, I declined.  I don't have a need for leopard print bands attached to two combs or chopstick looking thingies.

Molly the ninja dog

She took the bag back upstairs with her and finished getting ready as I continued to fight off her little ninja dog.  I've learned to only wear pants or leggings at my mom's.  Never wear a dress because of little ninja dog's needle sharp claws.

The little ninja dog can jump right up a dress and scratch my legs all the way back down.  It hurts.  The dog can't be stopped.  If The Murph heard how many times I've complained to my mom about teaching her dog some obedience lessons and manners, he would laugh.  He thinks the same thing about my cats.  

When my mom was ready to go, I realized my keys were missing.  My cell phone was laying in the exact same spot I had put it, but the car keys were missing.  My mom and I started looking all around the desk where I had been sitting.  I even looked outside on her patio to see if maybe I had dropped them on the way inside.

I couldn't understand why I couldn't find them.  It was pretty easy to retrace my steps from my car through the back door to her desk.  I decided Molly, the ninja dog had done something with the keys.  I retraced Molly's steps, but for the most part she had been right there the entire time, jumping on me like I was a trampoline.

It crossed my mind that maybe, just maybe, Molly had swallowed the keys.  I didn't know how she could have done this without choking, but the way she was jumping around all over the place, who knows.  Since my car key is hands free, the kind that will open the locked car door if I just have the keys in my purse, I decided to carry Molly out to the car to see if I could open the door.  That maybe if the key was in her stomach, the car door locks would still be able to get the signal coming out of her insides.  

Didn't work, so I figured either Molly didn't swallow the key or the key signal wasn't strong enough for the car to pick up inside a dog stomach.

It had been almost 45 minutes of key searching.  My mom and I were hot and exhausted at this point.  I was starting to think something weird was going on at her house.  Either that or it had to be the one other culprit who was in the house. 

My mom.

I asked her where she put things when she mindlessly takes things upstairs with her when she's getting ready to go somewhere.

Answer:  Today it was in the retro 1980's style hair clips bag.

Consequences

The Boy's neglected car
Hasn't moved from this spot since last December.

The Boy was suspiciously quiet for most of last week and all weekend.  I hadn't heard from him since sometime last week, except a "hi" or a "meow" or two on Skype.  Random responses to my, "How are things going?" and other questions seem to go ignored and unanswered lately.

To be honest, I have been so busy with last minute wedding preparations, that I really haven't had that much of a chance to skype with The Boy.  He must be busy at school too because he's not calling me either.  With two room mates this year, he's not as lonely and he's learning some good lessons on how to live well with others. ( I hope!)

Today he called me out of the blue to tell me he's sending his resume to career services at the school and therefore, he will be getting a job soon.  His question to me, that had prompted this call, was, "How was he going to get to work since he doesn't have a car?"  Basically, he was once again asking me to buy him a car.

Yeah right!  This is not the first and certainly won't be the last time he tries that one.  The "car issue" has been an ongoing thing at this house for awhile.

First of all, let me point out that he has an old Jaguar out in the driveway rotting away.  It sat in the driveway at our other house for a year until I sold the house last December.  The purchasers of the house actually asked me if I was leaving the Jag.  It was obviously neglected, half on the driveway, half in the backyard, with ants homesteading under the hood.

We had to have the car towed before the closing for The Boy, since he was still at school.  The Murph put in a new alternator for him and drove it to its new home.  This is where the car has been sitting, neglected since last December.  The Murph and I jump started it once last Spring.  Other than that, it hasn't been touched.

Lonely neglect

During all that time, The Boy didn't give a rat's ass about the old Jag because The Murph was nice enough to let him drive one of his cars, a newer and much nicer Mercedes with 380 hp, no electrical issues and a working radio and air conditioner.   It's no wonder the jag was abandoned!  The Boy had it made.  A nice car to drive, no payments, no insurance, all he had to do was put gas in it.  The gas part he complained about endlessly.

And he had his Jag sitting in the driveway that we encouraged him to sell and invest the money for college.

He never did.  That's probably a good thing because it wasn't long before he yelled at me and said some very disrespectful things.  The Murph didn't tolerate that one bit and told The Boy, " That's it!  No more Mercedes."

Things cooled off and I convinced The Murph to let The Boy have the Mercedes back and The Murph, being the nice guy he is, handed the keys back to The Boy.

This lasted a couple of months and The Boy was disrespectful again to me and still complaining about having to put gas in the car on top of that.  After two more times of losing the keys for yelling at me and then getting them back, The Murph said, "That's it.  No more.  Enough is enough.  No more Mercedes."  It's getting sold to help pay for the wedding.

Sooooooo...  when The Boy calls me today about that "car issue" again, I had to say, "What do you want ME to do?  I've done all I can for you on that issue and you blew it."

 Consequences.

I hated having to do it.  I really want to help him just like the past 200 times I've helped him, but his disrespectfulness was in part related to the car/cars issue.  It's tough, but I know I'm doing the right thing.  The Murph is not letting him disrespect me and I am not letting him disrespect The Murph, which he did in a BIG way.  No appreciation at all for what The Murph was doing for him.  More than his own dad was doing for him. (which is almost nothing)  

I told The Boy that I had given him access to two cars.  He still has one (the Jag) that is in his name to do with what he wants.  I'm out.

I gave him some options of things he could do with the Jag___  fix it up, get insurance on it and drive it or trade it in on another used car once he gets a job and can make payments.  We've even offered to pitch in some money if his dad will match it, to help The Boy buy another car.

His dad has already turned that offer down more than once.

I can only hope that The Boy has learned something from this.  To appreciate what he has, to be grateful when someone does something for him and to treat family and friends with more respect.  I know he has Asperger's, but he had more than enough chances and warnings.

He's going to have to figure it out now.  We will do what we can to help, but from now on he's going to have to have some "skin in the game."

To be honest, I am kind of glad he doesn't have a car down there.  I know he's grown and he needs a car, but it is one less thing to worry about!

Wedding Planning, Stress And Cats That Bite

I'm hesitant to do another post about the stress and anxiety I've been feeling this week because The Murph might take more pics of me lounging by the pool or napping on the couch.  I have tried to explain that sometimes I can't put a finger on why I feel anxiety.  It seems to me like just the way the earth is tilting now that we are approaching Autumn and the sun is lower in the sky makes me somewhat anxious in a weird sort of way.  Even though I do LOVE this time of the year.

Anxiety sometimes has no easily explained reason for being.  Apparently.

The stress I am feeling comes from dealing with the last minute details on our upcoming wedding.  That isn't going away until the details get worked out.   I am working on it.  My vows are written.  I've been working on them off and on for over a month.

The programs are written out and just need to be sent to the printer.  That has been the biggest stress for me.  I just wanted to write it out and pick out a program at the same place we got the invitations and say here, put this information in that program format.    Easy!

The Murph doesn't want to do it that way since it costs more money, but it's either spend more money or more of my time trying to figure it all out and get a program together that looks decent.  I don't have a program on my computer that will easily do that.  At this point, I don't really care anymore.  I'm not stressing about it.

It seems that the cats, especially Phantom, has picked up on my stress.  He has been extremely bad.  Worse than usual.  He tries to attack Ed every chance he gets.  He goes after Cadence as well, if he gets too close.  When all else fails, Phantom bites me.   Sneak bites on my shins.  It hurts!

Biting is not good.  He should know better than to bite a stressed out female.  This cat has no fear.

 With all that's going on, most of it entirely in my mind, I couldn't pass these babies up last time we were at Target.  I love these cute little pumpkins that taste like candy corn, only cuter.

 I felt better immediately after consuming half the container.  I am not even going to let the fact that mineral oil is one of the ingredients ruin the experience for me.  See how cute they are?

The jewelry I am wearing in the wedding is here.  They were all packed up in cute little boxes from Tejani.

They are very pretty and very sparkly and I am very excited about wearing them.

The beverage napkins for the reception have come in as well.   Things are coming along just fine.  I am going to take a deep breath and enjoy life.

I've never tried any, but anxiety meds would probably help.  After I've seen how much better The Boy is doing on them, I have considered taking some myself!  The Murph would probably agree!  Today all he could offer to make me feel better was an acai berry smoothie.  It helped!

Stressed Out I Am

We are now at the final countdown to the big day.  Only 17 more days until the wedding and past time to get all the details finalized.  Since The Murph didn't want to hire a wedding planner, I am feeling more than a little stressed out.

"Why hire a wedding planner when we have plenty of time on our hands to plan and do things ourselves?" says The Murph.  That's all fine, but it seems like all the final details and planning have been dumped on me.    And have I mentioned before that I don't handle stress of any kind very well.  I get anxiety.

 I can handle the big picture, but when it starts to come down to the details, things get messy.

I've been so off the deep end lately that I don't even know what to blog about.  My brain keeps wanting to shut down.  I start doing mindless things like running 17 miles Sunday, listening to the same song 100 million times, napping.  

I could even swim laps for an hour at this point and not die of boredom.

I admit I am a little irritable and easily upset lately.  The Murph doesn't understand why.  He's more laid back than I am about these things.  He knows they will get done.

Somehow.

He said something today to me and I really don't remember what it was because it was that unimportant, but I got all upset.  I told him he just didn't understand how stressed out I am.

He laughed at me and said, "Stressed OUT!  About what?  We're getting married.  The bills are paid.  You don't have to work.  You have it made!  What do YOU have to be stressed out about?"

Later, he took this picture of me sitting out by the pool reading a People magazine just to reemphasize how "stressed out" I am because my life is just so hectic right now.

I call it creepy taking a picture of me from the kitchen window without my knowledge.  Good thing I had my top on!  I'm sure poor Kate wish she'd left her top on now that her boobs are published in French and Italian magazines.

I am a little worried about a certain topless, beach photo shoot I did several years ago.  The photos are on my old laptop which my ex stole.  Any day I might go online and see my own boobs plastered out there for the world to see.  Topless photos in the hands of a vengeful ex don't mix well.

However before you judge me, I told my mom about the photo shoot and she was cool with it.  I think she understood it was more of an" artistic" thing to do. What with the sunset and all the pretty background colors and sand and surf.

Today when I told The Murph I wasn't sure what I wanted to blog about, he suggested that I blog about my "impetuousness. "

Not exactly sure what that meant, I looked it up.

    im·pet·u·ous/imˈpeCHo͞oəs/

Adjective:

Acting or done quickly and without thought or care; impulsive. Moving forcefully or rapidly: "an impetuous flow of water".

I decided that he must want me to blog about what a strong swimmer I am.  I do move rather "forcefully", if not "rapidly" through the water.

I'm sure he didn't mean I am "impulsive" or anything like that.